It Only Takes One
Updated: Jan 12
It's easy to forget how powerful one toxic person can be when you think you've healed from the negative impact of toxic people and you've done everything you can think of to avoid toxic people, but if you haven't actually learned why you keep attracting toxic people into your life, the Universe will arrange for you to revisit the topic.
GO BACK TO THE BEGINNING
Nothing happens by accident. Every circumstance you find yourself in is the result of the true energy you put out into the Universe and your true energy comes from your true beliefs. I've written about this many times, but I'll say it again - what you think you think and what you believe isn't always the same thing and the Universe responds to your true beliefs - not what you think you think.
If you consistently, or even occasionally find yourself in a relationship (personal or professional) with manipulators, liars, thieves, and/or various types of con-artists, and you're wondering how in the world you got there, you have yet to learn the truth behind a past experience, and you'll keep finding yourself in these situations until you do. In other words, there is a mind file that you need to review, reassess, and ultimately reSOLVE. It's not always easy to identify the mind file that is creating these repetitive situations. Self-reflection takes objectivity, dedication and practice, and above all, a genuine willingness to realize that you don't know everything about you. I know - sounds like a crazy statement - but it's true. Most people don't know themselves nearly as well as they would like to think they do. It goes back to the what you think you think idea.
You are in control of your life. Your true personal energy dictates your life experiences, so if you've truly healed your past, you won't find yourself in the same situations. Healing isn't possible without Divine Intervention. It isn't. To heal, you must genuinely forgive the person or persons who inflicted the emotional pain in the first place, and to do that - you will need Divine Intervention. The mind's process is simply not capable of genuine, heart-felt forgiveness, so until you forgive the manipulators, liars, thieves and con-artists that you previously encountered, you will continue to find yourself involved in these types of negative and toxic relationships. How will you know when you've healed? By your response to the toxic people you encounter. If you are able to see, understand and have compassion toward the toxic person you are encountering, you've healed, but if you find yourself battling with, defending yourself against, compromising, or ignoring this person - there's more to learn. There is a difference between drama and conflict though, and conflict is going to happen because no two people are ever going to agree 100% of the time. Drama, on the other hand, is what you create from the situation.
Ok, let's say you've gone back into your past, you've found the original mind file, you've learned the how's and why's of that past experience, you've forgiven the people AND your own self, but you still find yourself struggling with a toxic person. What's going on? Constant exposure with a toxic person will wear anyone down eventually; that's why it is so important to have a constant flow of positive coming in to your being to help you achieve balance. Another thing that might be happening is your ego is in the way. People always want to share the big 'aha' moments they have with others hoping that it will make a difference in other people's lives, but that is only true if the people you're attempting to help actually want the help. It's great to want to help others by sharing what you've learned, but it's not your job. People who are ready for help will ask for it. Wait until someone invites you in, otherwise, focus on maintaining your own balance.
ALLOW THE POSITIVE IN
Anyone who has been emotionally traumatized will have trust issues. How could you not? When people have emotionally beaten you down, criticized you to death, blamed you, mistreated you, lied about you and to you, and whatever else - why would you want to trust anyone again? But, you can't gain positive from the outside world if you keep your defensive wall up, so you have to put yourself out there and risk a little.
This is where the power of one positive person can help to balance your own energy, and when you're balanced again, you will know what to do about the toxic person situation.
You won't be able to trust anyone else until you trust yourself, and you won't know if you can trust yourself unless you get out into the world and mingle with people again. The trick is learning to trust your initial and intuitive reactions. Take whatever time you need to consciously and mindfully assess your situation before taking action, and remember, time is a human construct. The answers will come to you when the time is right. In the meantime, do the best you can.
HELP IS AVAILABLE
Personal consultations can be out of financial reach, and that's why I wrote Mind Files. For less than $10 you can have a kind of personal consultation in the form of the book. In the second half of the book, there are journalling exercises that you can do to help you determine your problematic mind files.
Having an objective opinion about your life situation is crucial to healing, so if you've exhausted all the self-help avenues and are still stuck, you might consider purchasing a personal consultation.
You can't change or fix anyone else - regardless of how many positive affirmations you make. The Law Of Attraction doesn't work that way. You can only do you, but never underestimate the power of one.
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